is marriage life long or love long?

Who being loved is poor hearted?-perhaps none! Love –free unconditional love has the magic power to make of a beggar a king. Love without which the intimacy of marriage must prove degrading to both the woman and the man.
Marriage may have the power to `bring the horse to water’ but has it ever made him drink? Many love birds walks in marriage so drunk in love that they assume they have began a love-romance phase and shun marriage responsibilities. They expect so much from their partners while they give so little. For any marriage institution to learn smoothly the spouses must be ready to give and take. They must be ready to balance between work, friends, relatives and their spouses’ .Incorporate your partner in your hobbies -if they are different from your own
A girl-child is tired with the marriage confusion from a tender age. she is constantly told and re-told that marriage is her ultimate goal-thus all her energy in education and all other areas of life must be directed in achieving the best in her marriage, yet little is discussed fully and openly about the function as a wife and mother. She is kept in pitch darkness of her only assert in the competitive field-sex. She enters into life-long relations with a man only to find herself shocked.
Most marriages are sex starved .A great marital disaster! When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is unconcern and uncaring, it deeply hurt the other partner. In a normal marriage couples fight about anything from `from why the tooth paste was left open to why your mum is coming over again’ but after the fight sex is known to soothe the bad feeling-kind of a new begging-a forgiving ritual ,but when one is deprived of even that, bitterness, resentment and desperation creep in and accumulate with time, leaving the starved partner with only two choices-an affair or divorce-most go for the former and the marriage take a zigzag routes.
Marriage is not a ritual or an end, advised Amybloom .It is a long intricate intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner. If then you have the right dance partner why is it then so hard to balance the moves? Some find it easier to look for new dance partners rather than help their spouses in balancing, resulting to high records of divorce-a bitter marriage failure.
In ancient time divorce was a history word despite men heading, ruling and controlling a string of wives. They lived in different houses a clear indication of luck of intimacy romance and sex .They were so submissive and stern with their roles. Any duty from their husband was taken keenly with more fear than respect. More inferiority than love but marriages lasted till death struck.
Marriage and love have nothing in common despite that notion that they are synonymous. In fact they are as far apart as the poles are. Some marriages however are as a result of love but to others -the large number, love has been misunderstood, shunned and rarely takes root; if it does it soon withers and dies. It delicate fiber can not endure the stress and strain of the daily grind .The institution continues to learn with out it and introduce other subjects like; jealousy, mistrust, affairs .Soon the learning collapses but the institution continues for society opinion and children`s sake.